tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post6246809686368800983..comments2023-05-31T07:45:54.628+00:00Comments on Desperate to multiply: Good news and a moanPortia Phttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08344574775614817555noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-42541859584954803772008-02-13T07:27:00.000+00:002008-02-13T07:27:00.000+00:00Argh about your friend's comment. I think I under...Argh about your friend's comment. I think I understand what she is trying to say (she thinks that a life/death situation is terrifying), but IF really interferes with our core human desires to reproduce, parent, etc... I don't think your friend understands how devastating IF can be.<BR/><BR/>My DH gives his sample in a pretty comfortable room (outfitted with porno magazines and videos), but last time he was there, the office staff was right outside the door, moving some enormous object. I'm gueesing it was a liquid nitrogen tank or something. I'm sure it would make it difficult to concentrate!!sarah23https://www.blogger.com/profile/05898197158558142894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-90494300418061535822008-02-12T22:57:00.000+00:002008-02-12T22:57:00.000+00:00Hooray for 5 eggs! Way to go.Sorry, but that lady ...Hooray for 5 eggs! Way to go.<BR/><BR/>Sorry, but that lady who made that remark sounds like a nincompoop. Harumph. Avoid her, at least right now. Does that make me sound childish? Oh well.Frenchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07549739192754072138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-77931596246096117962008-02-12T09:19:00.000+00:002008-02-12T09:19:00.000+00:00There are several cancer survivors in this communi...There are several cancer survivors in this community, and I remember reading a post from one of them saying that infertility is WORSE than the cancer, so yah boo and sucks to your insensitive friend. It's never helpful to offer up those kind of asshatttery comparisons, and I'd be tempted to tell her so if it happens again. <BR/><BR/>but five eggs?? You go girl.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-6580233507833649262008-02-12T07:42:00.000+00:002008-02-12T07:42:00.000+00:005 eggs! Well done! Completely understand your hurt...5 eggs! Well done! Completely understand your hurt over your friends comment. Have had the same thing said to me.Princesses in Muddy Puddleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002265001740168322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-429111008308862182008-02-12T01:24:00.000+00:002008-02-12T01:24:00.000+00:00Five! Eggs!As for the friend, I don't think you're...Five! Eggs!<BR/><BR/>As for the friend, I don't think you're overreacting. It's never appropriate to belittle someone's pain by essentially saying "it doesn't really matter". Especially when the effects of childlessness stay with you for a lifetime, whereas hopefully your friend will be treated successfully for her cancer. <BR/><BR/>Not that life will ever be the same for her, but just looking at two breast cancer survivors I know (incl my mum and an IVF cycle buddy) and how their lives have progressed from the time of diagnosis, and in the second case how much that woman felt she was affected by infertility, compared to her experience of cancer.<BR/><BR/>But I wasn't really trying to compare. The point is, it's not appropriate to tell someone their problems don't matter, when really they have perfectly legitimate woes.<BR/><BR/>BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-76535843690460730162008-02-11T23:38:00.000+00:002008-02-11T23:38:00.000+00:00Five is a wonderfully lucky number. Well done. M...Five is a wonderfully lucky number. Well done. May they really get it on in the petri dish. Before this infertility experience, I would have been appalled and shocked that a "friend" would make such a lame brained comment. Sadly, nothing surprises me anymore.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08725936391366111773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-13927341826999191222008-02-11T20:30:00.000+00:002008-02-11T20:30:00.000+00:00Wishing you lots of luck with those 5 great eggs! ...Wishing you lots of luck with those 5 great eggs! Keep us updated!Waiting Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07487061896648183375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-13788192434811680612008-02-11T19:01:00.000+00:002008-02-11T19:01:00.000+00:005 eggs are fantastic! That is incredible news! I ...5 eggs are fantastic! That is incredible news! <BR/><BR/>I am sorry your friend just doesn't get it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-58568959701878072742008-02-11T18:08:00.000+00:002008-02-11T18:08:00.000+00:005 eggs is fantastic! I am so pleased for you. Your...5 eggs is fantastic! I am so pleased for you. Your poor husband, I know their part isn't on the same scale but there is still a lot of stress involved. This sounds like an already stressful situation made so much worse.<BR/><BR/>And your friend, this is truly an example of how people, even those we think have a clue, just don't understand the real effect IF has on our entire being.<BR/>I'd find it very difficult to be open with her after a comment like that.<BR/>Try not to dwell though, just think, FIVE eggs!!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15454167446758199344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-10303156613315334082008-02-11T17:59:00.000+00:002008-02-11T17:59:00.000+00:00Good job with the ER...the fall will be something ...Good job with the ER...the fall will be something you can all hopefully laugh at one day!<BR/><BR/>Friends are amazing, aren't they? Some say the greatest things and some just ruin you. I agree that this is somewhat like a type of cancer...maybe it's not the worst, but it's still there invading your thoughts and your body every day - every minute! Just try to let it go and realize that some people will NEVER know how you feel or what you're going through.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with everything else!!!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14048243639634834643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-12398129448388046032008-02-11T17:50:00.000+00:002008-02-11T17:50:00.000+00:00Hi Portia. I'm so sorry to hear about your failed...Hi Portia. I'm so sorry to hear about your failed cycle in December but glad to see you aren't giving up. Congrats on the 5 eggs and I'm hoping for a great fertility report. <BR/><BR/>And I can not believe your insensitive friend. She just has no clue how hard and how painful infertility is. There is an article I read once that many women going through infertility report similar levels of anxiety and depression to women with cancer, HIV or heart disease. So that is a fact and it upsets me how ignorant people are. I've had people like that in my life and I distanced myself. I realized infertility is painful and hard enough and I don't need people like that in my life. Big hugs to you...!One Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092873478760754270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-26105186221764205992008-02-11T16:47:00.000+00:002008-02-11T16:47:00.000+00:00Way to go Portia! Please do take it easy! Been thi...Way to go Portia! Please do take it easy! Been thinking about you--and I look forward to the fert report.<BR/>Im sorry about the insensitive friend--like soapchick said, we can relate-and we are all here to roll our eyes for you at the insensitivity!JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18027548058304720360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36406024.post-90272541042098601192008-02-11T16:35:00.000+00:002008-02-11T16:35:00.000+00:00Fabulous news on the 5 eggs Portia! I hope they a...Fabulous news on the 5 eggs Portia! I hope they all fertilize, yes I'm greedy. Eeeks about hubby's difficulties but sounds like it all worked out. Sorry about your insensitive friend, but hey that's why you have us out in blogland! We understand. Enjoy your rest.Soapchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899175649394809612noreply@blogger.com