First, a big shout out to my wonderful BeeCee who'd had fantastic news. I cannot begin to say how excited I am for her!
A few little changes in both my sides of the early stages of quest for B's sibling:
Frozen Cycle
Spoke to both clinics about moving my one solitary frostie from old clinic to new one. Various forms must be signed and transport arranged. I could pay someone called Costa £150 to move the embie across London or I could borrow a Transporter (which sounds a bit S.tar Tre.k) from new clinic and make the journey myself.
Or I could leave it there and have old clinic transfer the embryo. That would be the least trouble and cheapest option. New clinic's frozen cycle is about 1/2 the cost of their fresh cycle which in turn is double that of other clinics. The cost is likely to be the same as a whole fresh cycle elsewhere. As the chances of a safe defrost are only about 50% then i must be mad throwing our money away like that.
The big BUT is that new clinic did something that meant I have B. Maybe it was just the right egg/embryo but maybe it was their much longer and more careful transfer procedure - without scan, unlike every other clinic. If it fails - as is likely - then i'd rather it failed at new clinic where I know i've given it my best shot.
What do you think? Should I just get it defrosted and transferred and not spend too much on it? Throw everything at it as who knows if i'll be able to face IV.F again? Waderidoo?
Adoption
Met a girl at a local playgroup with two gorgeous little girls. One, mixed race and one white. Turns out they're adopted and are sisters - both with a Polish mother. They were living with different families - i don't know the detail just yet as I was also chasing B around and listening from afar - and she's adopted them and they're now reunited with her as their Mum. She had their snacks in the same green rucksack I use for baby snacks. I got it 'free' from the drug company to carry my Pu.regon. I knew she had to have an IV.F history but she'd obviously got her happy ending via adoption.
I struck up a chat with her over the rucksack and we're meeting up next week to talk about how she adopted her little girls. It didn't sound quite as grim as I expected so perhaps there's light at the end of the tunnel.
Monitored Cycle
Found out my stats for this month. FS.H was EIGHT! EIGHT! I haven't had a score in single figures since I was 37. LH, Oestradiol and Prolactin also all checked out in the normal range. I'm sure i've not had a fertility renaissance, but it was SO encouraging not to have gone through the fertile ceiling just yet.
I just know i'm going to be in turmoil over what to do. Mr G and I will have some soul searching to do over B's sibling and whether we're strong enough to weather more treatment or even the pressures of adoption.
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It's definitely a tough decision. I'm not in your shoes, so I'm not sure what I'd do. But - I would certainly be tempted to try with the frozen one - not sure where is the best choice though. I think I would be a little concerned about the transport myself.
Whatever your decision, I wish you and Mr. B all the luck in the world.
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Hi,
I had these thoughts you are having, whether we should just adopt straight away with the secure end result of a baby, whenever that would be. We are suffering from male factor infertility to.
We have come to the conclusion (might change don´t know) to start with IVF and hopefully have a baby that way, and then start adoption procedures to have baby nr 2. Still not knowing whether the IVF will work for us, I think the thought of adoption is more reassuring, as it gives me the comfort to know that it will happen. Regardless of they way to get there.
But I´m not actually convinced that that is my preferred option to adopt, maybe it is just some kind of a back up plan, to keep my spirits high.
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