Tuesday, May 06, 2008

On a more cheery note

My last post was written under a bit of a cloud. I think I had a slightly hormonal attack of the blues. I had a full-on weep on Sunday night which Mr G dealt with admirably. All sorts of issues came up - fed up with constantly being scared, fed up with needles and (the most embarrassing part which i'm ashamed to even 'fess up to) upset about my new hair do!

I'd been looking forward to getting my grey roots sorted for AGES. I'd decided to go for more highlights as I thought i could avoid tint that way. My hairdresser said that i had to have tint as I've always had it, so I ended up with highlights AND tint and a full-on (silent) panic about chemicals seeping into my skin and getting to TP. I also had a fairly drastic cut - from shoulder length to just about chin length with a new fringe and lots of layers. The colour was so much lighter i got a fright every time i looked in the mirror. The end result was VERY different to my old hair and I've not been sure how to manage it. A week on and i think i'm getting used to it and getting to quite like it...sort of. My meltdown was a little OTT but perhaps just a bit of steam being let off.

There I go again sounding a misery guts. I'm really not!! We've booked a long weekend away and i CAN'T WAIT!!! We're off to Mallorca for the next May Bank Holiday to a tiny hotel to chill-out and recharge. I can't begin to tell you how excited that makes me. It will have been two years since our last proper holiday - our honeymoon!.

More good news (for me) is that I've bought some clothes that fit! I bought a couple of pairs of maternity jeans and some black trousers. I know it's a bit early to be doing that but i just can't fit into anything but some stretchy wide leg trousers I bought a few weeks ago and I was feeling a mess. It's SO great to be looking a bit more normal again. Now i just need to buy some summer tops - and there's so much out there as fashion this summer seems once again brilliant for disguising a big tum.

I'm having a bra dilemma. I went to a specialist bra store who told me my 34B's are in fact 32DD's. Blimey! They also told me that an underwire is fine in pregnancy so long as it fits properly and doesn't cut into the breast tissue. I bought two of their v expensive bras - all I could afford. I thought i'd buy more at my favourite store for underwear - Marks and Spencer. At their store, i was told NEVER wear an underwire when pregnant! I'm now confused. I'm happy to go without the underwire - i'm not that big to need one - but i'd really like a definitive opinion on this.

Sun's still shining and it's beyond lovely. Just looking out the window makes me smile. I wish it was always like this here, but i'll enjoy it for now. I'm off to meet a friend for a gossip and a walk on Hampstead Heath followed by lunch. I've absolutely nothing to complain about so please feel free to tell me to get a grip if I do.

12 comments:

Bea said...

I don't think you'll die from wearing underwire. I agree that the fit is the most important thing. To tell the truth, I had a lot of trouble finding a soft cup in my size around your stage and ended up buying underwired. Figured since it was the correct fit, no harm done. Was able to change into a soft cup next time my size changed. Haven't keeled over yet. I guess if there'd been a soft cup in my size I would have gone with that, though.

Bea

Betty M said...

On the bra front my plastic surgeon friend advised me that the key to preserving your boobs (other than relying on good genes)was a well fitting non-underwired bra day and night throughout pregnancy and breast feeding and to get the size checked regularly. He said that he was no expert re underwires and milk production issues but he knew his stuff on shape and lift. I took his advice and have not regretted it....

I saw your last post too - if its any comfort you are not thinking any differently to others of us lucky to get to be pregnant post infertility.

Waiting Amy said...

P - I started out at 32D to 32DD so I'm one who definitely goes with the underwire. There are those who are against it, but there really is no proof it's a problem. I wore underwires through most of my first pregnancy also, and BF like a champ. I just ditched the wire near the end because I bought nursing bras instead of regular. I wouldn't worry about it!

Bee Cee said...

So glad you are in a better place. I can imagine you feel in a bit of a no mans land at the moment. You will always feel like 'one of us' if that makes you feel any better.

Glad you are enjoying the sunshine, great isn't it? I nearly went overboard and put the roof down on the car!

Baby Steps to Baby Shoes said...

It was my understanding that one wasn't supposed to wear underwire as a nursing bra, but what do I know?

Fertilized said...

Uhm, I wear an underwire and i am pregnant - nothing I have ever read said not to. I wonder

soapchick said...

I am glad that you are feeling more chipper. Mallorca!!! Girl I am so jealous!!! Oh how I wish I lived in Spain again so I could hop over to Mallorca for the weekend. Have a fabulous time! Oh and the bra thing - never heard of "to underwire or not" during pregnancy, but I'm glad you got fitted correctly. I was wearing the wrong bra for years before I finally got fitted - it was the best thing! How about a picture of your new haircut?

My Reality said...

I would say if you are a DD, then you are big enough for underwire! I hate to go without it, it is the only thing that gives my boobs any shape. I say go with what you are comfortable with. But I have no idea if you can wear underwire in pregnancy.

Foreverhopeful said...

Glad you are feeling more cheery. Sorry I've missed out on your last posts but I don't think there is anything easy about being pregnant after IF. Its so unfair we all can't enjoy it and not be so paranoid about everything and I'm sure the hormones dont' help. How exciting about your trip to Mallorca.

Rebecca said...

I've never heard NOT to wear and underwire while pregnant...I've been wearing them all along...what's the issue? Maybe I've been completely ignorant of this rule b/c if I didn't wear underwire, my boobs would just rest on my stomach...not a good look! Glad to hear that you got your hair done too...I felt so much better when I did that at 14 weeks!

Carrie said...

Glad you're feeling a bit happier. It is unfair that even after achieving a long awaited pregnancy the worry won't disappear.

Have a great time in Mallorca!

sarah23 said...

I've honestly never heard that about the underwire. It would never have occured to me.

Uneducated American here: what's May Bank Holiday? Just curious!

I hope you had a wonderful walk with your friend.